Someday I'm going to take a chunk of time to write a nice long post about our experiences and perspectives so far on the subject of Raising Black Boys. In the meantime... here is a blog post written by another white mother raising two black sons that nicely articulates some of the same thoughts we have: Click Here.
Sunday, December 31, 2006
Saturday, December 30, 2006
Friday, December 29, 2006
Our daycare is closed for this week, so I've taken this time off from work, and for the past three days I've been home with the boys. I purposefully didn't plan any outings or activities for us -- thinking that after being away in New Hampshire for a week the boys could use a little low-key down-time at home. Although I've almost lost my mind (I'm not someone who can easily stay put in any one place for one whole day... let alone three in a row!), it was definately the right thing for K & O. Other than getting back into the swing of all things eating-and-sleeping related (they got waaaaaaaaay off track while we were away), and re-bonding as a tight little dynamic duo (they are going through an incredibly intensive phase right now with their relationship -- extremely loving with each other and extraordinarily happy to play alone just the two of them, with almost zero fighting or irritability whatsoever), and of course spending gobs of time playing with all their new Christmas presents, here's what's comprised the bulk of our time over the past three days:
Seriously Discussing the Finer Details of the Inner Workings of Trucks' "Motors":
Putting Rocks Inside Trucks:
Putting Sand Into Trucks:
Posted by Heather at 9:00 PM
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
It was a Christmas To Remember!
As I was taking my first "Christmas Vacation" photo in the Philadelphia airport on Wednesday morning I laughingly said to Braydon, “Is it ok for me to take about a million photos of these two boys over the next week?!” And he laughed back, “YES!! I bought an extra memory card for the camera!!!” An older woman in the airport overheard us and ran up to me to say: “Honey, enjoy it! And take as many photos of these adorable boys as you possibly can!!!” Then she walked off smiling. I thought to myself, “I WILL take tons of photos! I will I will! I don’t care if I go overboard with it! They’re only going to be 2 for Christmas once!” Just now as I uploaded the photos from the camera to my computer it showed that we had taken 396 photos! Here are some of our favorites.
Three cousins throw rocks and sticks into Lake Ossipee.
Posted by Heather at 9:08 PM
My dad and I standing by the bonfire as it gets dark.
The boys made a guest appearance in the Freedom Church Christmas Eve Pageant! All of the boys were supposed to be sheep, and the girls angels. But K & O really wanted to be angels, not sheep. So they were. They stole the show (see "Highlight" post!)
Posted by Heather at 9:06 PM
So... Kyle and Owen got to be in the Christmas Eve Nativity Pageant even though we were just visitors (very inclusive church!). They chose to be angels and their cousin Sadie chose to be a sheep (toddler gender-bending! despite what anyone else might have thought, we were beyond thrilled with this!!!). Our two little angels absolutely stole the show from the second that "the multitude of heavenly angels" entered the stage. They were about as gosh darn cute as could possibly be, and every person in the place was ooohing and aaahing over the two of them. Then came a moment that I quite possibly will never ever forget... and the only moment that I (as well as many, many, many other audience members) have laughed so hard that I've cried in church... Our little angels stole Baby Jesus out of the manger and took off!... Due to some sort of Christmas Miracle Braydon had the presence of mind to capture the whole thing on film:
Here, as the bible story of the birth of Jesus is somberly read aloud in the dimly lit church, the boys realize that there is an actual baby lying in the manger (well, it was actually a doll, but it was very real looking)... you can see the look of sheer wonder (and thrill) in their eyes.
As many of you know, the boys desperately want a baby brother/sister. They ask for this almost daily. I fully believe that in this moment they truly thought that their biggest dreams had been answered on this very special Christmas Eve and that this baby could potentially be theirs! Just imagine- we've been making this huge deal about Christmas- finally it is clear to them-- "Ah ha!!! This is why they've been making such a big thing of this!!!!!!" In this photo above, you can see the look of concentration on Owen's face as he ponders how to claim this baby -- "Hmmmm... How can we get it out of the manger and out of this place? I think I could just snatch it right now..." And you can see the look on Kyle's face too as he peers up at his 3-year-old cousin -- "Sadie, you're my cousin and all, but don't you dare even think about stopping us from taking this baby!"
Posted by Heather at 9:04 PM
Well, I hate to make assumptions about their own thoughts and feelings and opinions, but I think this one is pretty safe to assume... If they were able to verbalize their own highlight from Christmas 2006, I can guarantee that Kyle and Owen would say, "Motorcycles! Hands down!!!" Yup, they are spoiled rotten by their MorMor and MorFar. Yup, they got motorized VESPAS from their MorMor and MorFar. Yup, -- so far so good -- they truly genuinely organically appreciate their MorMor and MorFar. So, nobody is complaining. No comments necessary for these three photos taken upon unwrapping the vespas on Christmas morning.
Posted by Heather at 9:02 PM