Sunday, August 26, 2007

Spirited Water Babies

K (behind) and O (front) in the swimming pool this evening
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We have two children. Both are what child psychologists label "Spirited." Anyone who knows even a little about child psychology can see the "Spirited" nature of Kyle and Owen a mile away. Owen is an extremely Spirited child -- he falls on the far extreme end of the spectrum. Kyle is just plain spirited -- a textbook case. Both are hard to handle. Together they are (to put it nicely) "two handfuls." If you've seen them in real life you know what I'm talking about. They are in constant motion, they are loud, they are brazen, they are FULL OF IT all day every day. They test your patience, they let you know what they want, and they are (as someone said to me today) "hard to contain" (uh, yeah, in more ways than one!!!). I try to embrace this about my boys. I tell people they are "full of it! full of spirit!" Luckily for them (or unluckily as the case may be), I, as their mother, can relate to Kyle and Owen's spirited persona's. I am pretty sure that I too was a spirited child, and now-- as an adult-- I am quite aware that I am a spirited adult. Spirited people can drive other people absolutely crazy with their boundless energy, their will power, their persistence, their intensity. Spirited people are extremely frustrating to handle as children and extremely frustrating to deal with as adults. They push the limits, they push people's buttons, they push the boundaries of everything/everyone/every situation all the time. Spirited people are also incredible to witness as they often are the ones to forge new directions and expand horizons. Most great rebels (both horrible criminals and great luminaries) are/were spirited people. Right now I'm reading (for the second time in the past 2 years) a terrific book about raising spirited children. I'm going to post more about that in a couple of weeks. But one thing this book talks about is how much spirited children love water. It is one of the very few things that brings out the best in them and at the same time soothes them. This part of the book is amazing me now, as I read it again for the second time, just as much as it amazed me the first time I read it. Because long before we ever identified K & O as "Spirited" we noticed their complete utter total infatuation with water. Faucets, sinks, hoses, puddles, baths, pools, ponds, lakes, rivers, oceans, boats, bridges, swimming, diving, jumping, floating... Kyle and Owen LOVE water. This weekend we spent most of our time at our swimming pool. Today, after spending the morning at the Uhrig's new house and having lunch with them, we spent some time hanging out by the Delaware River (a 5-10 minute drive from our house). To put it mildly, a Water Weekend = a Happy Weekend for K & O. Here are some photos from this weekend.





7 comments:

Malia'sMama said...

Oh my, my. I am thinking I, too, have myself a spirited child! And, the water thing, if you've read any of my blog, fits it, too.
But, don't you find that "spirit",the intensity also expands to how fiercely they love? My chiclet is only 9 1/2 mths old, but this is already soooo apparent. :)

LaLa said...

Oh, I have a spirited child as well and interesting about the water. Annslee would rather swim than do anything...please let me know what that book is, I need to read it : )

Love all the pics of your sweet boys!

Rob and Mandy Brelsford said...

I have read the book "Raising your Spirited Child" because we are also a family strong in spirit (Me and probably all 3 of my kidlets - varying degrees) I love and appreciate your post, and cannot wait to hear which book your reading.

theghelertertwins.blogspot.com said...

Dear Heather, thank you for putting a "word" on what I am. "Spirited"!! And my kids, and dog. lol. I want to read (did I just say that?) this book. What is the title and by whom? As usual your post today made me grin as I could feel your energy in your writing. K & A also love (really love) the water......

Kristina said...

OMgoodness...I LOVE the last picture!!!!! Awesome!!!!!!

Heather said...

For those of you who are interested, the book is called "Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

Rob and Mandy Brelsford said...

Yes - it's a great book!
:) Mandy