Tuesday, July 21, 2009

My Dad Today

MorFar & Meera on the 4th of July

My family has had a tough year. That's the understatement of the year. Just over a year ago my cousin Karen (my parents' god daughter) was diagnosed with colon cancer; right at the same I gave birth to Meera via emergency c-section; 12 weeks later Karen died of colon cancer; 6 weeks after that her brother--my other cousin--took his own life; soon after my sister went through a separation from her long time partner (my niece's father); and then my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer. It has all been a lot. And for a lot of reasons it has been especially a lot for my parents. But it is what it is. And here we are.

Today my dad is having surgery to remove his prostate. This is the treatment option that he and my mom chose. I am so thankful to him for being willing to do this for all of us --- with this route he is guaranteed to be "cancer free" by the end of the day. We will breathe a deep sigh of relief to know that it is no longer in his body. And then we'll do whatever we need to do to support his full recovery.

Up until now we have been a very healthy bunch, with no major health crises, and my father --in particular-- has always been extremely healthy. He's a rock to many. And nobody is accustomed to seeing him in any way vulnerable. My parents have a million friends and loved ones (literally... that is who they are... if you know them, you know that about them)... and that fact made Braydon feel even more honored when they chose him -- out of everyone -- to be the one person there with them at the hospital today and tonight. He is the right person to play this role for so many reasons.

Today, if you're reading this blog, please send up prayers and hopes and thoughts and positive meditations that my dad gets through this all o.k., that my mom has the strength and fortitude to get through it too, and that Braydon can give them the solace and peace that they need during the moments that they need them.

MorFar is the best. And we need him around for a long, long time. Prayers and good vibes are much appreciated right now as we walk this part of our path. Thanks for reading, ~hbj

24 comments:

Jen said...

praying for your dad, hoping everything goes great and that he's home soon and recovers well!

Molly C said...

Praying for you Heather and Braydon!!!!! I love reading your posts about MorFar! (ps where did that name come from?)

That picture of him and Meera is fantastic.

Holli said...

PRAYING!!!

Rachel said...

My dad is a prostate cancer survivor. Will be thinking of your dad and all your family.

Wendy Huning said...

May the surgery go perfectly and your Dad return to full health! Blessings on your family.

Kathrin said...

We will be thinking of him today!

Shannon- said...

Prayers, for sure! Thinking of you too, (my dad diagnosed with Pros.C one year ago.. and sometimes 'daughters' dealing with their 'dads' about a sensitive subject can be tricky. So prayers to all of you today!

Ani said...

prayers going up for MorFar. good vibes are being sent his way too.

all the best.

Patricia said...

Sending up the best for MorFar and the rest of you. Hang in there! love you, Patricia

Mark and Sarah said...

Praying for your dad and the surgeons and nurses today. You guys need a HUGE break from the ickiness of life. Hang in there...

M3 said...

Sending prayers and hopes!

Maryl852 said...

Praying for your dad!

Gail said...

Heather,

Braydon's uncle Guy had the same operation a few years ago. He's doing fine with an excellent prognosis. I hope that is encouraging. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

Gail

Chapter Two Manmi said...

Praying for Morfar!!

Lori said...

We are praying for your dad. We love MorMor and MorFar very much. Our thoughts are with you all! xoxo
-Lori

Ann-Elise said...

Heather,
So sorry to hear about your Dad! We're thinking of him today, and hope he recouperates fast.

Chatter said...

Sorry to hear about your dad. Thinking of him and your family today!! May he have a speedy recovery.

Chandra

TGR101 said...

praying for you all, especially that MorFar soon returns to robust health!
Tracy

Heather said...

Thinking of your whole family today. I could've written the same about my father, our rock, last summer when he was going into brain surgery (and he subsequently bounced back with hardly a notice!!!). It's wonderful to hear what a blessing he is to all of you and I'll be praying for a full recovery.

HCP

Lisa said...

I'm thinking of your entire family today and know that there are many more good years to come with your beloved dad!

Jen said...

May your Dad come through with flying colors, no complications, and perfect, whole health! And so it is!

:-)
Jen.

Mary McG in TN said...

Trust in the Lord and all will be well. Your father made the best decision and will be fine. This is scary for you so I pray for you as I know that the Lord will take care of your father.

Another one trying to become a parent said...

God wil guide the surgeons and your dad will make a quick recovery.

Juli said...

Just reading this today, so I'm praying for his recovery.