Juli commented on a post from earlier this week asking if we get asked a lot about who is "older"- K or O. I am so surprised that I've never blogged about this, but I have looked back through the blog a bit and I really don't think that I ever have written about it!!! The reason I'm surprised I haven't blogged about it yet is because it is on my mind so often, because... just about every time we're out and about in public I get asked this question. Having twins is like walking around with a PEOPLE MAGNET. (at least it is for us.) It doesn't help that 1) we're such an 'interesting' looking --i.e., mixed race -black&white-- family, and 2) K & O are --if I do say so myself-- so gorgeous. Plus, K & O are so extremely extroverted and social (to the nth degree) and approachable that they make it way too easy for people to approach in pretty much any/all circumstances. Just about always people will first say, "Are they twins??" and then they'll respond with, "Which one is older???" We have always explained what 'twins' are to K & O by saying something along the lines of, "Twins are two babies who grow together in a woman's belly and are born together." This all makes more and more sense to them the older they get. They 'get it.' Truthfully, I really hate the question 'Which one is older?' I hate it because I don't like the way people read into it what they do. People always say stuff to us like, "Well, you know, with twins whoever was born first is the bigger one." And, "The older twin is the more dominant one." And, "The younger twin is usually weaker." Etc., etc., etc. I personally think the whole notion of giving any kind of deep meaning to which one came out first is totally unfounded and bizarre. When people ask about which one is older I always say, "We don't know." The honest to goodness truth is that we do not know which baby came out first. And we will never know. From my perspective, that is a gift. I love it that we truly don't know who came out first. Recently, now that the boys are getting older, people are starting to direct their questions directly to them instead of to me. They get asked all the time, "Are you guys twins??"... "Which one of you is older???" To, "Are you guys twins?" they quickly and enthusiastically reply, "YES! We ARE twins!" And when the follow-up question comes (which it so often does) --"Which one of you is older?"-- Kyle and Owen just sort of look back at the person with a blank dumbfounded look and then continue forward with whatever it was they were up to. At that point I usually quickly answer for them, "We don't know!" and then run off, chasing after them as usual.
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The Johnson-McCormick Family Blog is a blog spot for sharing the scoop on our little family's big life! We are Heather, Braydon, Kyle, Owen, and Meera Johnson-McCormick. Kyle and Owen are twins- born May 8, 2004 in Cite Soleil, Port au Prince, Haiti- adopted January 31, 2005. We became a "Party of 5" when Meera Grace was born to us on May 28, 2008. We have a crazy, fun-filled life with 3 bambinos and 2 big careers all under 1 roof - The point of this blog is three-fold: 1) to keep friends and family posted on K, O, and M's goings on's and our life, 2) to create an historical document/journal/scrapbook of this wild ride, 3) to be out there in the blogosphere -- loud and proud -- doing what we can to support other adoptive/inter-racial families and dual-career families in their journeys. Thanks for reading and following along! As Kyle and Owen say, "It's a bumpy bumpy ride!"(in a good way!).